A phrase that still tries to creep in and control my thoughts daily.
“What if I fail”…
“What if people make fun of me”…
“What if I’m wrong”…
It’s funny because, in theory, our brains just use this “spotlight effect” to magnify potential threats to our nervous system. The problem is, we don’t always know how to tell our brains “actually, that thought isn’t true or helpful, but thank you for trying to prompt me to be ready just in case.”
And that’s exactly how I handle those “what if’s”. I check them with facts. So today, if you are struggling with self-doubt or the courage to take action towards your personal goals, here are three questions I use to ground myself when I feel my mind running away in the what-if wagon:
Is this thought/idea actually true?
What else could be going on in the background to make me feel think this way?
What are the facts about this situation/idea?
Think about a recent fear or challenge you recently overcame. Were you uncertain or doubtful when you were faced with the challenge? How did you push through? What was the outcome?
How can you apply those lessons to this experience/challenge?
I really hope these help you today, and remember that you have everything you need within to achieve whatever you desire for yourself. I mean it. Remember, I have taught myself every single one of these techniques from my own experiences. I don’t have any special powers or advantages over you. Change takes time, patience, consistency, and the willingness to try (even when it’s hard).
And if you’re ready to sit down and start making plans for personal change, I would love for you to join in on my free masterclass. Here you will learn how to audit your current lifestyle and habits, identify what you want to change, and then I am going to give you an easy system to help you implement these goals into lasting changes.