“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.”

Have you ever thought about it that way?  

Girlfriend, comparing yourself to others is a WASTE of your precious time. 

Everyone is dealing with things differently right now, in a way that works and feels best for THEM.

We typically compare the WORST we think of ourselves to the BEST we presume about others…now that’s just downright UNFAIR, gurl!

So Mary on Instagram is killing her workout routine, staying on track with her meal plan and is seeing results even in isolation? Good for her! 

Repeat after me: Someone else’s success takes NOTHING away from your ability to reach your own goals! 

So, how can we stop comparing yourself to others?

Break the vicious comparison cycle by…

Being aware of and avoiding your triggers

Pay attention to what sparks a comparison spiral. Does a late-night social media scroll leave you feeling a little crappy (when you were completely fine an hour ago)? Is it chatting to a friend about her super-successful career? Do certain activities like hitting the weights room at the gym or heading to the beach that make your feel less-than your amazing self?

Make a list of your triggers and how they make you feel. Can you avoid any of these situations?  Promise to catch yourself next time – awareness is key!

Taking a social media break

I feel this goes without saying these days? Remember that not everything on Instagram is as it appears. Block out a chunk of social media-free time each day. When you log back in, pay attention to who you are following  – don’t feel bad for unfollowing anyone who triggers you! 

Counting your blessings

As SOON as you are triggered, sit down and list three things you are insanely grateful for. Like, really FEEL it. When you focus on the good in your life, you’re more likely to forget about that little green envy monster. If you’re not thankful for what you have now, what makes you think you’ll be thankful for what’s to come!? Make a list of affirmations you can repeat to yourself throughout the day to get your vibes way up. Stop yourself from comparing yourself to others.

Making peace with imperfection 

Gal, you ain’t perfect – none of us are. As soon as you recognize that you’re a human who will make mistakes and not always have it together, the less pressure you’ll put on yourself.  Perfection does not exist but imperfection does.

Lifting others up

Honestly one of my FAVORITE things to do when I’m feeling a little down is to DRENCH other ladies in (genuine) support and praise.  Lifting others up makes me feel so dang happy, that I forget what I was upset about in the first place. Give it a go!  You never know who needs it…

Turning comparison into inspiration

Babe, you don’t have to fall prey to Miss Comparison. You can stop comparing yourself to others now.  Use comparison as motivation to improve what matters most in your life.

Who do you admire? Who inspires you to be a better person and make healthier decisions for yourself? THESE are the comparisons worth spending your valuable time and energy looking into.

 

We all get 86,400 seconds today – how will you use them wisely?

 

 

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